love. week thirty three.
city. new york city
The Metropolitan Museum Art, Gallery 601
Love is almost beautiful
There is a love which is crushing. Ecstatic. Suffocating. Orgasmic. Devotional. Passionate. Annihilating. Transcendent.
And there is a love which is joyful. Abundant. Charitable. Full. Living. Tranquil. Caring. Imminent.
They are not opposed to each other. They operate across different axes.
One: the mundane <> the holy
The other: protect <> grow
differentiation <> identification
Particular <> universal
The first identifies by escaping the self. The other identifies by bringing everything into the self.
However, this all operates on the level of the I, of the self (and the other, the non-self).
It is possible to recognize the existence of other 'I's, of other selves.
In this case, it's not enough to distinguish between I <> World, but a further distinction must be added: I <> You <> World
Once I recognize that you are a You, and that for you, you are an I; then I must also recognize that for you, I (for you) am not an I, but a part of the World. Or, if I'm very very lucky, I can be your You.
In which case, me and you can both be 'I's to ourselves and 'You's to each other. Perhaps we can call this We.
The We is once again another I (opposed to the World and other 'Wes'); And the process repeats.
In conclusion, I can behave, naively, as myself (in which case, I am surrounded with the World and/or You), or I can behave as your World, or your You. And, if we can both recognize each other's existence, we can become a We; i.e. a more expanded I.
Love has two opposites: hatred and fear
When I fear you, I retreat from you into myself.
When I hate you, I impose myself onto you.
In either case, you and I cannot be friends. We are enemies. We can never exist together.
I have two opposites: you and we
In love, the opposite of I is We
In fear/hate, the opposite of I is You
In love, I and We do not destroy each other. They strengthen each other.
In fear/hate, I and You must destroy each other. They weaken each other.
Even opposites have opposites.
"Evil resides in the very gaze which perceives Evil all around itself.”